Since losing my Dad I've spent sometime talking to a counsellor about bereavement. It's been a good way of talking through my thought processes and relieving some of the stress and tension. She made a comment to me very early on which a couple of months later I wanted to explore. "In Britain we don't…
Learning to cope without him-a different perspective.
It's been a while since I last wrote anything and truth be known I've probably needed to but my life has been a bit of a whirlwind. Just over a month ago I was faced with the anniversary of losing Dad but this was simultaneously eased and magnified by the excited/anxious wait for the arrival…
The firsts aren’t the hardest…
Many people have told me that the firsts are always the hardest, your first Christmas without them, first birthday etc. However, I beg to differ, this was the case when I lost my Granny but it's been different with my Dad. I've prepared and braced myself for each one, firstly his birthday, then Christmas and…
Sometimes you’ve just got to laugh!
At first you wouldn't associate laughter with grief, you know you'll have your moments where you chuckle at fond memories and quirky personality traits (warning this post contains dad dancing references) but it actually comes sooner than you realise. When I got home after losing my Dad, everything was a blur and I was in…
If you were still alive…there’d be someone else.
I read this blog post today and it seemed poignant to return to my own blog, especially after yesterday, attending the funeral of a regular customer of a pub I both worked in and frequented a lot, this gentlemen was also the father of a very good friend and offering my support to my friend obviously…
We won’t see him again.
The hardest part of grieving is trying to accept the knowledge that you're never going to see them again, and after losing a parent this is worse. It's stronger, it's more emphasised, hurtful and frustrating. It's been 9 months and I still can't get my head around it. You never think your parents won't be…
You don’t miss what you had…
Recently missing my Dad has been different, on the visit to my brother's for Christmas we were blessed with an early present from Santa with the news that my husband and I were having a baby. Needless to say the whole family were overjoyed, despite it being very early days, it was nice to share…
It’s the best Christmas I’ve ever had!
I wrote this months ago, in fact I started to note down these thoughts in the airport on the way home, New Year's Day. I never posted it but today a memory has made kick my blog back into action: This phrase "it's the best Christmas I've ever had" will most certainly make my mum…
Looking forward to Christmas
It's always too soon when someone passes, there's always something you want to say or do and it's never the right time. However, we couldn't have wished for better timing, Dad was visiting after staying in the US with my brother and family, supporting them as their new arrival,my youngest nephew, was brought into the…
You’re doing really well.
I've heard this phrase so many times since I lost my Dad. To be honest I've begun to hate it, I sometimes think it's the worst thing to say but then sometimes I need to hear it. It frustrates me when it's been said by someone who I rarely see or doesn't know me that…
Learning to Cope 